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4 Tips to Overcome Your Conflict Avoidance Issue

Do you like to maintain positive, friendly relations with your teammates? Do you like to think of yourself as a good, nice, person who would never start a fight? You could be just as responsible for the dysfunction on your team as your aggressive, combative colleagues. That’s because it’s a problem when you shy away from open, healthy conflict about the issues.
If you think you’re “taking one for the team” by not rocking the boat, you’re deluding yourself.

Tips for the Conflict Avoidant

If you really struggle to embrace conflict, try these quick tips.

A Little Positive Thinking Goes a Long Way

We’ve all heard bits of wisdom like, “it is better to view the glass half full instead of half empty” or “life is what you make it” or “chaos is opportunity.”  These quotes, and many more like them, are about the power of positive thinking.
What is positive thinking, and how can it make a difference in your day, and your life?  According to many researchers, positive thinking begins with “self-talk.”  Self-talk is the stream of endless thoughts going through our minds every moment of every day.

My Worrying and My bad mood, which comes first?

Mood and worry go hand in hand – well, at least bad mood and worry do! This has often raised the chicken and egg question “Which comes first, my bad mood or my worrying?” Worrying tends to occur in times of stress, anxiety, depression – even anger, and other negative moods that become associated with worry include guilt and shame.

The way that many people think about this relationship between worry and bad mood is to assume that worry causes stress, anxiety, guilt, shame etc. That is, your bad mood is a passive outcome of your worrying, and anxiety is a consequence of your irrational tendency to chronically worry.

The Shame Family

“It is shame…which reveals to me the Other’s look and myself at the end of that look.”—Jean-Paul Sartre.  As Sartre well understood, in feeling ashamed we feel objectified and exposed as inherently flawed or defective before the gaze of a viewing, judging other. (Sometimes, we, ourselves, can be our viewing other.) In shame we are tyrannized and held hostage by the eyes of others; we belong, not to ourselves, but to them. In that sense, shame is indicative of an inauthentic or unowned way of existing.